This is Michael. Today is September 30th and the last day of Childhood cancer Awareness Month. I write today about the parents I admire. Last year, I wrote about the new Hero in my life, Cannon, and all the new heroes that I had seen or met on the oncology floors of children's hospitals that we have been on with Cannon. Melissa and I have been introduced to and met a lot of parents in the past year, and we follow the children and the ups and downs of their daily battle with pediatric cancer. I think about Matt and Nicole Kabel (highlighted in the article below) and their daughter, Sally. We shared a room with the Kabels at Memorial Sloan Kettering and many middle of the nights were shared trying to console our kids, Cannon and Sally, in the same room, suffering from cancer. I think about the parents of the children lost and our conversations with them, our moments with them, our two days with them in Washington lobbying Congress for more funding--- and I admire their strength; wow, amazing strength of character to endure the treatment of their child over years and then to have to bury them, unjustly lost and so unnecessary in our world. And I have said before that I pause every early morning to think of the parents who are preparing for the funeral of their child, lost to cancer because no answers are known of how to stop this bastard disease that attacks the kid and their entire family. Yes, I admire the parents of these kids--- the kids are the heroes, but the parents are the steel behind the kids. Today, I won’t publish a fact about children’s cancer. The fact is that parents of kids with cancer deserve our admiration and our prayers--- period.
Below is an article sent to me that was written by Susan Donaldson James for the Today Show website. It highlights the parents of children with cancer. (Abbreviated)
Susan Donaldson James
Dena Sherwood didn’t see her 6-year-old daughter for a month after her infant son Billy was diagnosed with the most deadly form of childhood cancer — neuroblastoma. The 13-month-old had a massive tumor — collar-bone to belly button — wrapped around his spine and nearly died three times.
Nicole Kabel hasn’t slept in the same bed as her husband in the two years since their daughter Sally developed leukemia, because she worries her now 2-year-old might vomit and choke on her feeding tube in the night.
Ellyn Miller’s daughter Gabriella died of a virulent brain stem cancer at the age of 10. She went on to raise more than $100,000, writing a book and even getting federal legislation passed to fund more pediatric cancer research.
They are the "momcologists," a nickname for the moms — and dads! — who know the horrific toll cancer takes on families and have dedicated their lives to helping others. “We are every day moms all of a sudden thrown into this crazy cancer world and have to learn everything,” said Sherwood, 42, of Marlboro, New Jersey. “I probably know more than the average pediatrician about cancer.”
Courtesy Dena Sherwood
Dena Sherwood and her husband, Bill, daughter Sydney and son Billy, Jr., who is now cancer-free. These parents have raised millions to find cures, helped families cope with the blow of a new diagnosis and offered financial support for lost wages, hotels during grueling treatments and sadly, for funerals.For some, the work lasts long beyond the diagnosis, continuing the fight after a child is cancer free and even after a child has died.“There is no worse feeling than helplessness when you see your 3-year-old in pain: ‘Mommy, stop hurting me!’ when I help hold her down" for treatment, said Andrea Verdone Gorsegner, whose daughter Natalie, now 4, is in remission from acute lymphblastic leukemia.
In the last five months, Andrea Verdone Gorsegner, a 37-year-old mother from Middletown, New Jersey and mother to Natalie who is currently battling cancer, has raised more than $110,000 for pediatric cancer research. “For us, advocacy becomes a means of empowerment,” she told TODAY.
Dads are just as important and active in the fight against cancer. Single father Tom Mitchell, aka "Tattoo Tom", promised his 16-year-old daughter Shayla he would be strong as she spent more than 400 nights in the hospital before dying of Hodgkins disease in 2009. “There were so many challenges,” said Mitchell, 47, from Burke, Virginia. “As her condition deteriorated, I couldn’t work. There were a lot of holes — gas, electricity, food and rent — all on top of the devastating cancer treatment.” Mitchell asked a local organization and they gave him $1,200 to help with expenses. “But I am a proud father,” he told TODAY. So the former amateur boxer returned to the ring to raise money. “I got knocked out the first round, but I raised $20,000 for them.” Shayla’s death didn’t stop Mitchell. He took on a second fight and raised even more. And in a recent ultra marathon, he ran 100 miles and raised an additional $88,000. “I have a lot of energy,” he said. “There is very little I don’t do.” After grieving his daughter’s death, Mitchell founded StillBrave, an organization devoted to helping the families of children with cancer in the Washington, D.C. area. The group helps other families with bills, gas, house and yard work, babysitting and even birthday parties for the siblings of cancer patients. “Our lives have been turned upside down,” said Mitchell. “We are cancer moms and dads. We hold a puke bucket in one hand and a sandwich in the other. It’s a travesty that we’re the greatest country in the world and we have to endure these things and money for funding is left to knuckleheads like me and lemonade stands.” Childhood cancer is the number one disease killer of children in the United States, according to the National Cancer Institute, with nearly 16,000 children and adolescents diagnosed each year. And yet, less than 4 percent of all funding at the National Cancer Institute goes to pediatric research, and that’s for all 12 major forms of the disease. Most clinical trials are for drugs to treat adults. In the last 20 years, only two major drugs have been developed for children.
Sally Kabel of Brooklyn has been fighting an aggressive leukemia since infancy -- and her parents have been fighting right alongside her. “The good news is that childhood cancer is rare, but the bad news is it’s rare,” said Dr. Paul Meyers, a pediatric oncologist at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City. “It’s hard to get people interested in studying it,” he told TODAY. “We have many exciting things that might make a difference in childhood cancers, but they were abandoned because they don’t make a profit.” Parents are some of the most effective warriors in the battle for more funding and research. Many have stepped up and have become experts in every aspect of the disease. “Families who have lost a child to cancer raise a great deal of money and they want their voices heard,” said Meyers. “No one understands childhood cancer the way that a parent does,” said Meyers. “The burden is so enormous. It’s astonishing how I have almost never met a parent who didn’t rise to the occasion.”
When Dena Sherwood’s baby son Billy was diagnosed in 2008, he was given a 30 percent chance of survival. “That’s when our life changed completely,” she said. “I told my daughter I would be home for dinner then spent 32 days in the pediatric intensive care unit.” After 10 rounds of chemotherapy, six major surgeries, 14 bouts of radiation and two phase-one clinical trials, Billy, now 7, is not cured, but cancer free. Sherwood said it was “devastating” to see the suffering of the other families she met while Billy was being treated. She paid for some funeral expenses out of her own pocket. In 2009, Sherwood founded two nonprofits: Arms Wide Open Childhood Cancer Foundation to find alternative therapies, and The Truth 365, a social media campaign that gives a voice to all children fighting cancer. She has raised $1.5 million, enough to help about five families a month and to fund 18 clinical trials.“Billy is cancer-free, but our family lives with the emotional effects of cancer every day,” she said. “I liken it to soldiers going to war."
Nicole Kabel, a Brooklyn mom whose 2-year-old daughter Sally has an aggressive leukemia, said most Americans have no idea how grueling the struggle is, even after children are “cured.” Matt and Nicole Kabel helped launch an awareness campaign to light up the Empire State Building gold for September’s Childhood Cancer Awareness month. (The Empire State Building refused, but many other landmarks joined the #GoGold campaign.) He also writes a parent blog, “Sweet Sally Sunshine.” “I do consider myself a momcologist,” said Kabel, 36. “The doctors and nurses don’t have all the answers. Certain things can only happen through parent advocacy. There is nothing a parent won’t do for their child.”
Thank you to all that have read my posts for the month of September, but most importantly I thank those that have taken some of the information and acted, passed it on or have used it in some way to further our effort to increase funding for children's cancer research. I also want to take a moment to thank everyone who sent a package, a note, an email, a card or a message here for Cannon. It is sometimes overwhelming to see the support and the kindness of people around the world. Thank you so much. You all made a child smile, and that is a gift to him and to us. Thank you so much.
Every day, over 40 children are diagnosed with cancer. Over 40 families are attacked. And to this day, there is not a single therapy or medication or treatment specifically designed to treat, fight or eradicate neuroblastoma and/or many of the other types of the 12 major types of children's cancer. Today, yesterday, tomorrow and every day this year, parents will bury their children who die from cancer because of the lack of treatments for kids' cancer. I have repeated that less than 4% of federal funding for cancer research goes to all 12 major types of children's cancer. But, another way to say this is that over 96% of the funding goes to adult cancers and not the kids. That is wrong, plain and simple. Wrong. I hope that no one who reads these posts ever forgets these words.
Please help Melissa and me make the general public more aware that children get cancer, too. That children suffer painful and debilitating conditions from the years-old methods of treatment of cancer designed primarily for adults, not them. And that children are dying every day from cancer. Tell someone in line at the grocery store, ask your children to do a project in school on kids' cancer, or send a link from St. Baldrick's, Alex's Lemonade Stand, CureSearch or St. Jude's to all of your friends and those on your email list. Doing so will ultimately increase funds to charitable foundations in small, but sometimes big, ways. Increase in funds to charitable groups and foundations means more and broader research into why children's cancer occurs and trying to find a cause, and in the interim, less painful and more effective treatment so that kids currently suffering from cancer have a better chance to live to be an adult and don't ever have to know the experience of chemotherapy or a stem cell transplant.
This can be done. Please--- in honor of all the children lost to cancer every single day and to honor the pain suffered in the hearts of families who have lost a child, a sibling, a niece or nephew, grandchild or godchild to cancer--- help us make people aware that cancer strikes children and we need help to fund more research to bring an end to it.
Please help Melissa and me and all the parents of kids with cancer, living and now in heaven, to raise awareness so that someday, someday cancer in children will not exist. I will repeat again and say it every day about cancer in children: It is wrong. It is unjust. It is unnecessary.
Thank you to all who supported us in September for Childhood cancer Awareness (Action) Month. Stay GOLD--- and Stand Up for Children.